{"id":3436,"date":"2020-11-26T04:15:08","date_gmt":"2020-11-26T12:15:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bingeeatingtherapy.com\/?p=3436"},"modified":"2024-02-07T21:10:30","modified_gmt":"2024-02-08T05:10:30","slug":"so-you-binged-on-thanksgiving-now-what","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bingeeatingtherapy.com\/so-you-binged-on-thanksgiving-now-what\/","title":{"rendered":"So You Binged on Thanksgiving. Now What?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"BingedWell\u2026 most people don\u2019t binge at Thanksgiving dinner\u2026 It\u2019s usually after.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thanksgiving Binge? It\u2019s okay.<\/span><\/p>\n

most people don\u2019t binge at Thanksgiving dinner. They usually eat until they are comfortably full or even uncomfortably full. The binge comes when they get home. Because for people with eating issues, being full is NEVER comfortable. Usually the binge comes when you\u2019re in the kitchen cleaning up, or after you get home, or after everyone has gone to sleep. And it\u2019s pretty much always alone.<\/span><\/p>\n

I have been getting emails all day from people telling me that they overate or binged on Thanksgiving and that they hate themselves, that they are failures, that they are worthless, that they are defective, that they will never be good enough. They will never look like the women they work with \u2013 they won\u2019t come back to the office with their\u00a0whole new me pandemic look<\/a>\u00a0and they\u2019ll never look the way those Insta models look or even how their mother thinks that they should look. They\u2019re telling me that they are they only person in the world who \u201ccan\u2019t stick to their diet\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

This breaks my heart severely. These are hate letters that people are sending me all about themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are not defective. You are not flawed. You are not bad. Eating or overeating or eating off your diet does not make you a bad person. It\u2019s not like you kicked a homeless person or set fire to your neighbors house \u2014 or walked around a supermarket without a mask knowing that you had COVID-19 and coughed on people. You just ate more than you had planned to. How could you not have?\u00a0It\u2019s Thanksgiving!\u00a0<\/strong>The holiday that is centered around eating too much.<\/span><\/p>\n

Diets don\u2019t work because diets go against human nature and basic biology. You didn\u2019t fail at dieting,\u00a0you won<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0at being human. And your human self deserves love and kindness most of all from yourself. When you plan to restrict your food \u2013 you are sure to crack at some point. Human willpower can only go so far. And when highly palatable food is all around you, it\u2019s very difficult not to eat it. And if you try really hard not to and you\u2019re able to \u2013 there is a big chance that you will wind up bingeing on it or something else later. Please don\u2019t beat yourself. Please try your best to take a breath and remind yourself that it was Thanksgiving. That you are allowed to eat. And that today, even if you ate more than you wanted to or planned to, that you can still eat. You don\u2019t have to punish yourself by restricting or bingeing or purging. You need to eat. You don\u2019t have to earn your meals. Eating is a basic human need.<\/span><\/p>\n

You also don\u2019t need to look like anyone else. As women we have been taught to relentlessly compare ourselves to other women. If we see a beautiful woman, we think to ourselves \u201cshe is beautiful \u2013 therefore that means that I am not\u2026 I should hate myself\u2026\u201d and when we compare ourselves to others, we fail to see what is beautiful and wonderful about ourselves. We believe that\u00a0what we don\u2019t have<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0makes us flawed. We have all been taught that, to focus on our \u201cperceived\u201d flaws\u2026 by the things that make us feel separate from ourselves rather than aligned with ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n

But what if we thought about focusing on what makes us special?<\/span><\/p>\n

What if we thought about not comparing ourselves to others (we can\u2019t be anyone else nor should we be) and instead thinking about the amazing things that make us who we are?<\/span><\/p>\n

Even if you can focus on\u00a0one thing\u00a0<\/strong>that you like about yourself (a self-gratitude list) I think you might find some peace. It doesn\u2019t have to be about the way that you look, it can be about who you are and what makes you feel the most like yourself. And then you might spend some time focusing on that. For instance, if you like that you are a voracious reader \u2013 spend time reading, if you like that you are a great writer, spend time writing, if you like that you are a fantastic knitter, knit scarves or hats or sweaters for people you love or for strangers who are less fortunate than you. If you like that you are kind, and you can safely do so, and you are not a high risk person go serve food at a soup kitchen\u2026 or whatever.<\/span><\/p>\n

What I mean to say here is that it\u2019s important for you to be you and not to try to be anyone else. And when you get in touch with what makes you you and you truly align to that \u2013 you will begin to feel embodied and be able to revel in your own authenticity rather than thinking that you\u2019d be better off being someone else.<\/span><\/p>\n

I hope that you have a really great long weekend.<\/span><\/p>\n

My GET THROUGH DECEMBER WITHOUT BINGEING email series will start in the next couple of days! If you are not subscribed to the newsletter,<\/span>\u00a0click here to receive a daily encouraging email every single day in December\u2026<\/a><\/p>\n

Sending you love, peace and gratitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

Oh, and if you haven\u2019t<\/span>\u00a0taken advantage of this free self-love meditation, here you go!<\/a>\u00a0This will be a nice one to lay down and relax to tonight. It\u2019s short and calming.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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