{"id":2313,"date":"2015-02-05T21:12:55","date_gmt":"2015-02-06T05:12:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bingeeatingtherapy.com\/?p=2313"},"modified":"2024-02-08T04:27:38","modified_gmt":"2024-02-08T12:27:38","slug":"how-to-stop-bingeing-on-weekends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bingeeatingtherapy.com\/how-to-stop-bingeing-on-weekends\/","title":{"rendered":"Q & A Friday- How can I stop Binge Eating on Weekends?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\"i<\/a><\/span><\/span>This question comes to us from Sarah in New York.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Leora, \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I just can’t seem to want to take care of myself all the time. \u00a0It’s just\u00a0easier<\/em>\u00a0to not think about whether or not I’m hungry, so if I’m stressed, or particularly tired, or angry at the world, that’s what I do. \u00a0Things are fine when I care about myself, when I’m focused on listening to my body. \u00a0But I can’t seem to stay in that frame of mind. \u00a0I feel so good maybe Monday through Thursday, and things fall apart over the weekend and I binge eat and self-loathe. \u00a0This seems to be a pattern for me; without the structure of school I often fall apart and fall deep into hating myself and deal with this by eating a lot. \u00a0I hate going through these self-destructive phases every so often, but I can’t seem to break the cycle. \u00a0How can I stay positive more consistently?<\/span><\/p>\n

Hi Sarah,<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0I’m so glad that you reached out for support. You ask “how can I stay positive more consistently?” and I will address that, but I’d like to break your question down a little bit because there are a few different\u00a0things at play here:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. \u00a0Despite the fact that you want to participate in self care rituals, you feel like often you just can’t when you are too tired to.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Weekends are a huge trigger for you\u00a0because of the vast amounts of unstructured time. \u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    I’ll address the first part, which is you being angry at yourself because you are not consistent with\u00a0the way you care for yourself. I think that it’s really easy to get caught up in the “shoulds” of recovery, “I should always be paying attention to my cues for hunger and satiety, I should never binge, I should always be on it…” etc. But the problem is, that recovery is not perfect, and sometimes you just don’t feel strong enough to do the things that you need to do to recover. And that is okay. In those moments, the most important thing that you can do for yourself is be kind, not beat yourself up and forgive yourself, because that is what recovery is about- learning compassion and kindness for self. So when you are tired, stressed and angry at the world, you might ask yourself, “what can I do right now? what do I have the strength for?” perhaps you have the strength to sit back and relax and watch a TV show that will change your focus, perhaps you can call an inspirational friend, and perhaps you don’t have the strength for anything. If you can’t do anything, that’s okay. In that moment you can just acknowledge it and forgive yourself. Self love and self directed kindness is a way to be more positive more often. When you are kind to yourself you\u00a0feel<\/em>\u00a0better. \u00a0And when you feel better you become stronger and your recovery becomes stronger.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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    Weekends are an extremely difficult time for many people in recovery because of how open it is. \u00a0I am of the mind that planning ahead is the easiest way to bypass a binge. Since you know that weekends are your trigger, it might be a good idea for you to write out a loose plan on Thursday evenings of what your weekend is going to look like, what activities you have planned and also to plan your meals. You can also try to make sure that you have lots of activities with good friends to keep you busy. Connection is the opposite of isolation and eating disorders thrive in isolation. If you need to study over the weekend, plan study dates and always get out of your space and go to a library to study. Make sure that you schedule in lunch breaks with actual time parameters around them. Such as: 10am-11- work on x project 11:00-12:30- work on x 12:30-1:30 lunch. 1:30-4pm – work on x project. \u00a0 Planning in this way will help you to feel more structured and less antsy\/bingey.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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    I \u00a0hope that this was helpful and Thank you for your question.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Warmly,\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Leora<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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    Do you have a question about binge eating, bulimia, anorexia, or anything associated with eating? Send an email to bingeeatingtherapy\u00a0 at gmail dot com. All questions will be kept confidential. Include your first name or the name you want to be referred to as and your location. Are you interested in online therapy or coaching to deal with your eating disorder? Please\u00a0contact\u00a0me<\/a> to discuss getting started.\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/div>\n
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    This question comes to us from Sarah in New York.\u00a0 \u00a0 Leora, \u00a0 I just can’t seem to want to take care of myself all the time. \u00a0It’s just\u00a0easier\u00a0to not think about whether or not I’m hungry, so if I’m stressed, or particularly tired, or angry at the world, that’s what I do. \u00a0Things are […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4358,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,6,22],"tags":[853,852],"yoast_head":"\nBinge Eating Therapy - Help for binge eating, bulimia, obsessive dieting and body image issues<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/bingeeatingtherapy.com\/how-to-stop-bingeing-on-weekends\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"I can't stop bingeing on weekends\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"I wish I could be more positive. 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